not a perfect person, and you can say that I feel like b*tch*ing too
sometimes when I don’t feel like it, annoyed or angry or feeling other
unpleasant emotion. But I always try to be good to people around me.. my
families, friends, people I met on public places, etc. It came
across me that the month of November, especially in western culture, is a
month of gratitude, well.. it is the month when they celebrate
seen some scenes about Thanksgiving in movies and I really love it.. I
wonder how turkey tastes, yes, I have never ate one before. I also learn
this year, that there are a lot people keeping journal or make notes on
what they are grateful during the month. I thank God for each day in my
prayers, but never thought about writing them down in a journal. I
thought that it will be great. I came across some challenges, and I like
what Kristina Proffitt does in her blog.
I think I’m going to follow her step. I know it’s already November
11th, which means I’m about a week and a half late.. but it’s not wrong
to start anytime for gratitude right? :-pI’ll write more about this
And today, when I was browsing, I saw this article by Erin Pavlina.. it’s an old post,
but after I read it, I like it.It’s about kindness.. like I said
before, I try to be good to people around me the best I can. There were
times when some family or friends said to me, “what did you do that
for?”, “what’s the use of it?” or “do you have that much time?”, “don’t
you have anything else to do?” – and other things, especially if I do
something for a stranger. I backed sometimes, well..afraid of their
comments etc.. but after reading this, I think I’ll just do it if i feel
like it is the right thing to do.
Hope this article I quote from Erin will bring a new breeze to you..
Kindness is Contagious
One day I was doing some grocery shopping in a small but very popular
health food store. The lines were always long, especially on weekends.
It was Saturday and I ran in for a few things and saw that all 5 lines
had people waiting 8-10 people deep. I grabbed what I needed as fast as I
could and got in the express lane.
The problem with the store was that it was constructed poorly and
once you got to the head of a line with your cart you had to back out in
order to leave. That meant everyone behind you who had moved forward
needed to move back so you could back your cart out, turn it around, and
head out of the store. If you’ve ever been in a crowded line moving
forward you know how hard it is to get everyone to take a few steps
The energy in the store was palpable. People were frustrated,
anxious, tense, and in a hurry. The checkers had to take items out of
your cart one at a time, punch in the price (no scanners!) and then bag
it themselves. Basically, it took 3 times as long to check-out as it
does at a regular, large grocery store.
I myself was feeling really frustrated. All kinds of thoughts were
tramping around in my head. “God, why don’t they expand their store? Why
don’t they get a bigger space? Why don’t they hire bag people? Why
can’t they create a better system? This is insane!” The next line over
was having a problem. An older gentleman was trying desperately to get
to the front of the line to his wife who was at the checkout counter. He
had a bottle of wine that he obviously ran back to get. Big mistake. No
one would let him through.
Everyone was jostling around to make sure their place in line was
secure (all that backing up to let people out made people nervous about
line-cutters). I sensed people were about to go postal. Through the haze
of my frustration I noted a blond woman in her fifties who was venting
her aggravation out loud to anyone who would listen. “Hmm, she’s got
really beautiful hair,” I thought to myself. “Too bad she’s being so
mean to people. At least I have the decency to vent in my own head.” And
then it hit me. We’re so quick to vent and complain and whine but how
often do you actually see people complimenting total strangers out of
the blue. I decided right then and there, in the midst of utter chaos,
to share my feelings about this woman’s hair with her.
I tapped her lightly on the shoulder, she turned in a huff (probably
figured someone wanted to cut into line), and looked at me. I spoke a
little louder than usual to cut through the din of complainers, “I just
had to tell you that I think your hair is stunning. Not only is it a
great color for your complexion, but the style suits your face
You should have seen her reaction. A huge smile broke out on her
face, she practically beamed with pleasure and she reached out and
touched me lightly on the arm and said, “Oh thank you so much! What a
kind thing for you to say!” I think I noticed her eyes welling up. I
smiled too. I felt good! A little positive energy in the middle of the
But then the most amazing thing happened. She stopped barking at
people and started acting very politely to everyone near her. I heard
her say, “Oh please sir, you should go ahead of me. You’ve only got one
item. I can wait.” The man behind her thanked her profusely and moved
forward. He was smiling too. The guy behind me in line leaned forward
and said to me, “That was a really nice thing you said to that woman.
I’ll bet she feels really good about herself now.” The woman in front of
me also turned to me and smiled and said, “I agree. That was a nice
And then I noticed a shift in the energy of the entire room. People
around me started joking about our situation. Instead of complaining,
they were sharing their frustration without blaming anyone. People even
started laughing at the absurdity of the whole situation. A few moments
later the manager of the store stood up behind all the checkers and
said, “Hey everyone! I know the store is really crowded today and I’m
sorry about the long waits. We really appreciate your patience and I
promise we’ll get you out of here as soon as we can.” The checkers even
started to relax a bit and that allowed them to check us out faster. By
the time I finally left the store the energy had completely changed and
people were calm again. The blond woman waved goodbye to me and said,
“Thank you again! What a sweet girl you are!
And from that day on I decided that if I ever had a complimentary
thought about a total stranger I would express it to them. After all,
who is going to be upset at being stopped for such a reason? Do you ever
see someone while you’re out running errands and think things like,
“Wow, that’s a beautiful skirt she’s wearing. I wonder where she got
it.” Or, “That guy is driving an awesome car! I’d love to have a closer
look at it.” Or “What beautiful and well-behaved children that woman
has. How does she do it?” If so, why not go up to that person and say
what you’re thinking?
How do you feel when a total stranger compliments you out of the
blue? I know I feel great and it totally affects my mood after that. I
feel happier and I feel like I want to make others happy as well.
Kindness is contagious. You have the power to spread joy so easily! A
small 3-second compliment can shift the energy of an entire room. If
everyone started doing it, what effect would it have on the world?
So the next time you realize you’re having a kind thought about someone near you, share it and see what happens!